/en/ - this might be like a vent post (?) i think but ive been wanting to get this off my chest so, im a guy and i used to have a girlfriend a month ago or so and we were together for like 3 or 4 months maybe, but the issue is she was really avoidant with me and would make promises and never fulfill them for example if i ask her to tell me "i love you" or "i care about you" just reassurance in general, she would say "im not good at it but fine" but then a week later we would have an argument over the same thing. after that i decided to break up with her. so earlier i was just checking her profile and i saw she reposted about a girl who is i assume her girlfriend (shes bi) and she kept saying i love you in the reposts which honestly broke me because when i asked for it once i never got it. i dont know what to feel i just feel really numb, broken and betrayed because i never did anything wrong to her really, i always gave her reassurance, listened, bought gifts. she wouldnt even make any effort to hang out with me but i gave her the benefit of the doubt and ignored it because i really did love her. but now i just feel like i never meant anything and was just a waste of time. and if you guys have any advice on how to let out my emotions healthily please tell me because ive been really contemplating self harm and i usually bottle everything up until its too late

Anonymous Wed, Jun 10, 2026, 05:29 PM No. 12612

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this might be like a vent post (?) i think but ive been wanting to get this off my chest so, im a guy and i used to have a girlfriend a month ago or so and we were together for like 3 or 4 months maybe, but the issue is she was really avoidant with me and would make promises and never fulfill them for example if i ask her to tell me "i love you" or "i care about you" just reassurance in general, she would say "im not good at it but fine" but then a week later we would have an argument over the same thing. after that i decided to break up with her. so earlier i was just checking her profile and i saw she reposted about a girl who is i assume her girlfriend (shes bi) and she kept saying i love you in the reposts which honestly broke me because when i asked for it once i never got it. i dont know what to feel i just feel really numb, broken and betrayed because i never did anything wrong to her really, i always gave her reassurance, listened, bought gifts. she wouldnt even make any effort to hang out with me but i gave her the benefit of the doubt and ignored it because i really did love her. but now i just feel like i never meant anything and was just a waste of time. and if you guys have any advice on how to let out my emotions healthily please tell me because ive been really contemplating self harm and i usually bottle everything up until its too late

1 Anonymous Wed, Jun 10, 2026, 05:51 PM No. 12613

>>12612 i have never been in a relationship but if i were to be thrown into one i would act just like that girl (i am a man)

2 Anonymous Wed, Jun 10, 2026, 06:02 PM No. 12614

>>12613 but i was mostly hurt by the fact that she ignored my requests for reassurance but she tells another person that, it made me feel like im too much when in reality its less than basic like if you dont wanna be in a relationship with me specifically say it

3 Anonymous Wed, Jun 10, 2026, 06:07 PM No. 12615

>>12614 go for worse looking girls so they will be happy about you?

4 Anonymous Wed, Jun 10, 2026, 06:15 PM No. 12616

>>12615 yk if you date a bi girl your chance as a guy vs a girl is close to 0 cry and i dont care about looks anyways and mine arent so bad either guess i need to work on myself before diving head first into a relationship but oh well shades

5 Anonymous Thu, Jun 11, 2026, 04:25 AM No. 12619

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Just means she wasn't that into you dawg. The way you type makes you seem young so let this be a lesson now, get used to heartbreak. It's inevitable to a point so you might as well be prepared for it. Also e-dating sucks so try to date someone IRL.

6 Anonymous Thu, Jun 11, 2026, 04:35 AM No. 12620

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And by the way, self harming over that short and lame of a relationship is pathetic. Well, self harming in general is pathetic but regardless. Get it together man. Go hang with your friends, go outside and enjoy the fresh air and nature, go to your favorite restaurant, read a book, whatever. There are a million things to do. People are so dramatic. You got played by some girl, and that sucks yeah, but it's not the end of the world. Roll with the punches.

7 Anonymous Thu, Jun 11, 2026, 12:28 PM No. 12622

>>12619 It was irl but yeah looking back on this i agree, i didnt do anything though i just needed to get it off my chest now i feel way better happy i kept reading my manga and playing games

8 Anonymous Fri, Jun 12, 2026, 04:49 AM No. 12623

Sounds like she didn't care about you as much as you cared about her. Sometimes feelings are not reciprocated equally. Don't worry hikarin, one day you will find someone much more deserving of your love. Continue to do what makes you happy and become your best self.

9 Anonymous Fri, Jun 12, 2026, 11:14 AM No. 12624

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>>12612 she probably was lesbian but didn't want to admit it to you. Also >she kept saying i love you in the reposts which The way people act in public is very different from the way they act in private, you never know what kind of issues someone has in a relationship until you get really deep to it. For example, a long time ago I knew some friends who were in a relationship and from the outside looked really happy and loved each other so much you would think they would never leave each other, but then some years later I found they broke out, when I asked one of them she said the other one had mental issues and was secretly lying all the time and had some personality disorder.

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